Hi, I’m Tom O’Stasik. I’m looking to help you get through your divorce by sharing stories, inspiration, and tools to help you manage this transition in your life. The goal is to come out on the other side better having gone through the experience. I feel I’m a better man today because of the adversities in my life and I want to help you thrive post-divorce.
I realized when I was going through my divorce in 2012, I felt alone having to navigate and figure divorce all out on my own. Fortunately for me, I do pretty well on my own, but I could have benefited from hearing other men’s experiences about what was coming down the road during this challenging time. I appreciate you visiting my site and hope that you take something away from it. Please join the discussions and include comments, emails, or join our network of men.
I’ve always observed a difference between men and women when coping with break ups. I think about the movie Swingers and how the main character Mikey was trying to bounce back after getting his heart ripped out. He was pathetic, and most of us have felt like that before.
I believe women in general have a better network for emotional support. Men on the other hand, based on society standards, are suppose to be “tough” and do it on their own. Women cry on the shoulders of the girlfriends and hold each other. They are less alone through the recovering process. Men retreat to their caves and try to figure it out on their own until they’re ready to return to the world. I’m not saying I want to change the way this works. My goal is to help men through this process, help them feel connected to others, and provide useful tools to expedite their healing.
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